5 Most Forgotten Necessities for New Seasoned Moms

Our Blaisey boy has been here for one month now. Talk about time flying. We’ve been intentionally savoring every cute little moment with him, but it’s still bittersweet to see him grow so quickly!

After a five year span with no babies, this little guy has been a real treat.

After a five year span with no babies, this mama has become very rusty!

In the first few days after he was here, I began to realize just how out of practice I’d become and just how much I’d forgotten.

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To help any other rusty mamas out, here’s my list of my Top Five Forgotten (or nearly forgotten) Necessities!

Nursing Bras – after a few years of living a more free and hippie style of dress, the need for a good bra completely fell off my radar, as they say. It literally never crossed my mind. Oops. Let’s just say it’s more of a necessity these days! I’m loving this brand that I purchased, a couple days after Blaise was born.

Nursing Pads – these go hand in hand. You forget what engorgment is. And it has to go somewhere! Maybe grab some extra t-shirts while you’re at it. You’ll need them for those middle of the night soaked t-shirt changes.

After Pains Remedy – this was actually on my list, but Blaisey boy showed up before I made it to the store. Especially if you already have a few kids, this is a must. Oy. The pain can be worse than labor!

Diapers – obviously, right? This is somewhere in the back of my mind. I love cloth diapers, so I was pretty excited about it all, but I don’t think I really acted on that. Thankfully, a couple sweet friends made sure I had what I needed before his arrival.  I had this brand on my amazon wish list and was gifted some. For the price, they’re pretty wonderful.

Boho Bandeau – my sisters have been singing the praises of the Boho Bandeau for years, but I’d never actually purchased one for myself. After long nights and showerless days, I figured it was time. This makes me look a bit more put together and hides my dirty hair pretty well!

Bonus Item: The Diaper Bag. I don’t think I’ve carried a diaper bag since I had some cutesie thing with my first. Diaper bags are less diaper baggie these days and my hands are a little more busy. I caved and joind the diaper bag club. It’s really nice to have everything all ready to go and to have what we need when we are out. Gone are the long days at home with babies and this little guy is often out and about. The diaper bag has been a savior.

When Home Birth Doesn’t Work Out: Birth Story Part 2

For the beginning of this story, see my Birth Story, Part 1.

I arrived at my appointment feeling pretty good, but a little nervous as to how everything would pan out. I really didn’t want to get flack from a doctor about my home birth choices, my seemingly high risk pregnancy, or my supposed geriatric age.

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It turned out, I had nothing to worry about. The doctor was so sweet and understanding. She reviewed all of my issues and risks, but assured me that she would make sure everything went as smoothly as possible. She did reiterate that going past 40 weeks was not a good idea. I mentioned that I didn’t think I would, seeing as I’d been having contractions on and off, but she dismissed that as typical of a pregnancy with excessive amniotic fluid.

We chatted a bit more and then she wanted to check dilation, just to get an idea of how things we going. She immediately got a shocked look on her face and I believe her words were: “Girlfriend! You’re at 5 cm and need to go to Labor and Delivery!” My brain was saying “But I have stuff to do! The laundry! The dishes! Can I go home first?? I promise I’ll come back!” But I knew that this wasn’t my time to argue. She left to alert L&D that I was on my way and when I walked out of the room, I heard a nurse say “Do I need to wheel her over? {looks at me walking out} Oh, nope. She seems fine!”

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I called Andrew to let him know what was going on and then called my parents to let them know that the kids would be over soon. I drove myself over to L&D, which was mostly just driving around the parking lot, trying to find a space to park.

I got all checked in and sent to triage for monitoring and waited on Andrew to arrive. It was all pretty boring and uneventful. Eventually, my doctor came and determined that I was, in fact, progressing and sent me to be admitted. Que more waiting, aimless walking, and general boredom. I’d rather be at home doing laundry! I did struggle a bit with having nothing to do to distract me. I usually work, clean, and go about my day during early labor. Obviously, that wasn’t an option this time.

Things continued to progress, but I still wasn’t really uncomfortable. The nurse began monitoring baby and me again, which meant being in the bed instead of walking. About that time, the doctor came in to very carefully break my water.

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The main risk we were dealing with was a prolapsed cord, which could be extremely serious and result in emergency C-section (best case scenario) or even death. Needless to say, I was extremely nervous about break the water, but also felt more secure since we were at the hospital and I felt that my doctor was taking everything very seriously.

With great care, she broke my water and guided his little head down, to ensure that the cord wouldn’t prolapse. After this, I knew it was pretty much go time. I figured that, if I had to be in the hospital, I might was well take advantage and request just a bit of pain killer. I don’t remember what it was called, but they put something magical in my IV and I hardly even noticed when I hit transition.

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Soon enough, it was time to push, which turned out to be some sort of wacky show. I felt like those cows at Fair Oaks Farm where everyone stands around watching and waiting.

Awkward.

Finally, someone suggested a squat bar, but of course, no one knew how to use it. Thankfully, Andrew can figure things out, even under pressure. He got it set up for me and once that was situated, everything moved pretty quickly.

One big push later and we were holding our sweet baby boy.

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In an instant, our high stress, crazy pregnancy had safely come to an end. We were relieved and over joyed to finally have this little guy in our arms.

Bonaventure Blaise, you were worth the trouble, my boy. We are so happy to have you in our family!

 

When Home Birth Doesn’t Work Out: A Birth Story, Part 1

My boys have all thrown a monkey wrench into their births. My girls were pretty easy peasy. Bonaventure Blaise chose to follow in his brothers footsteps.

My last two births were sweet and easy home births. It was all so peaceful and comfortable, after having had some less than pleasant hospital experiences.

Everything went along swimmingly, until the 20 week anatomy scan. These scans are optional in homebirth, but I have always been a pretty stong advocate of checking everything out just once. At our scan, we learned that our little guy had bilateral clubfoot. This is a relatively common birth defect and entirely treatable. It also didn’t preclude home birth.

It did require having a follow up Level 2 ultrasound with a Maternal Fetal Medicine (MFM) specialist. He was a wonderfully friendly and informative doctor. After that first scan, he gave no indication that home birth was off the table, but he did request we come back for a follow up later.

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4D ultrasounds are pretty amazing. He still sleeps with a hand over his eye!

 

I wanted to skip the follow up and was, admittedly, annoyed by the entire process. But at 37 weeks and 2 days, we did the follow up scan. There, we learned that I had far too much amniotic fluid, which could cause issues at delivery. The MFM mentioned that I should be careful not to go over 40 weeks and requested that we monitor with weekly scans.

It wasn’t until I received his report the next evening – a Friday – that I saw that he had removed our possibility of having our home birth. Here I was: 37+ weeks pregnant, going into the weekend, and searching for an OB. I was feeling pretty lost and clueless.

Thankfully, I had many friends ready to help and was pointed in the right direction. I called an OB first thing Monday morning, poured out my ridiculous sob story, and was given an appointment at 11 the next day.

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Gardens don’t wait for babies. We spent Sunday of that crazy weekend gardening. I was sort of hoping it would induce labor…

When I left for my appointment Tuesday morning, Andrew joked that I wouldn’t be coming straight home. I’d been having contractions on and off since Sunday, but I definitely didn’t feel like I was in full blown labor.

(To Be Continued. It’s a bit of a long story.)

Nature Hike

We are all meant to be naturalists, each to his own degree, and it is inexcusable to live in a world so full of the marvels of the plant and animal life and to care for none of these things. ~Charlotte Mason

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The sun finally showed itself today and brought with it some lovely temperatures. We took school outside to enjoy this first really spring-y day.

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The pigs were loafing about, also enjoying the warm air and sunshine. They don’t have much time left to enjoy it, though! A few of them wandered over to say hello and beg for a snack.

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We hiked down to the bottom of our woods, ostensibly in search of young spring nettles. We never found the nettles – they must not be up yet, as new growth is always a little slow on our north slope – but we found tons of beautiful foliage, moss, and water in the tiny creek bed.

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Water in the creek bed, of course, means mud. So. Much. Mud. The girls were covered head to toe. But the giggles were worth the mess. I guess it’s time to de-winterize that outdoor shower I always tease my husband for building!

Big Family Tips – Conquering Mount Laundry

We just finished Spring Break and I can easily say it was the least relaxing we’ve ever had. We had grand plans to re-roof our house over break, which proved to be immensely more stressful than we’d anticipated. Thunderstorms, tornadoes, and snow didn’t help, either.

Being 35 weeks pregnant also didn’t help. Why do we always plan insanity during pregnancy? You’d think I’d have learned, after all this time. Clearly, I’m a little slow.

With aching hips, killer heartburn, and limited energy stores, things have fallen to the wayside. Especially when most of my helpful crew spent the last week on the roof.

But one thing has actually stayed within a reasonable  and manageable limit and that’s the laundry.

You read that correctly. I’ve actually stayed on top of the laundry for the last few months. It’s a victory nothing short of miraculous. It required an overhaul of our washing system, but it’s worked out beautifully.

I know many big families have older kids do their own laundry, but we haven’t gone that route. Between a finicky washer and kids who would probably opt for dirty clothes over washing, I’d rather keep this chore in my control.

Enter the Mesh Bag System. This is my husband’s brainchild and I’m quite grateful. Our kids have doubled up in rooms, so each bedroom has two mesh bags – one for clean and one for dirty laundry.

When one bag gets full, someone delivers it to the laundry room.

(If you’re a laundry purist, stop here. You may faint at my admission of never sorting laundry. Or folding.)

When I’m ready to wash that load, it all goes into the washer, gets dried, and gets returned to the mash bag. Someone from that bedroom picks up the load and they sort, (maybe) fold, and put the clean laundry away.

Occasionally, things get out of whack, but over all, this has worked quite well for us. Our laundry, as well as sheets, and towels all get done separately. But this has kept me from being overwhelmed by the kids laundry, so I feel like sheets and towels are getting better tended to now, as well.

I LOVE tips on running a home, especially a home filled to the brim with kiddos. Leave your best tips in the comments.

Uniting to Christ’s Life Giving Suffering

I’m over at Catholic Sistas today, chatting about pregnancy, Lent, and all that suffering. Head over to read the rest and join the conversation!

The forty days of Lent contrast pretty well with those forty weeks gestating a new little life. Both are long, rocky days of self-sacrifice, all in the name of sanctification and everlasting life.

Super Girls and Halos

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Superheros are pretty popular in this house. The kids love reading about them and watching all of the movies. I know not even a fraction of the superhero trivia that my children know, in fact I kind of can’t even keep straight who is who. But I like saints and saint trivia! So when I had the opportunity to review the new book Super Girls and Halos by Maria Morera Johnson, I was thrilled!

Johnson talks all about real life superheros and concurs with Edna Modes opinion that superheros don’t need capes. Johnson pulls our her favorite superhero saints and compares them with scores of your favorite fictional superheros. This book is a really fun comparison of virtue and vice – two things we all have, whether we are saints, sinners, or superheros.

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I love that Johnson not only makes these  comparisons, but breaks down some of the virtues and gives really lovely explanations of what, exactly these virtues comprise. In her chapter on fortitude, she points out that, beyond just courage, fortitude fights for the good. She compares Hermione Granger’s fortitude in facing Voldimort with saintly fortitude in facing persecution.

The author does a great job of pulling a few lesser known saints, as well. I definitely learned a few new names and tales as I read. Not all of her superheros are the caped variety, either. As an X-Files fan, it was fun to see Dana Scully make an appearance alongside St. Teresa Benedicta of the Cross!

We are told all of the time to look to the saints for inspiration. But it was a fun twist to think that these virtues can also be found in so many modern day superheros, as well. Give your kids the saints, but give them superheros, as well! Teach them to look deeper and see virtues everywhere.

Super Girls and Halos was a really fun, inspiring, and intriguing read. It’s geared mostly to females, just in that the saints and heroes are all women. I plan to tuck my copy into a stocking, come Christmas. I am sure my superhero loving teenager will enjoy this little book!

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Handmade, Catholic Gift Guide

Every year, I dream of completing my Christmas shopping before the start of Advent. This year, that date is December 3. We are running out of time, folks!

Last year’s gift guide was hugely popular, so I thought I’d make a few more guides this season. Today guide is all about the handmade and the faith based. (This post contains affiliate links!)

I am a HUGE fan of shopping small and buying handmade. Not only do I find handmade more beautiful, long lasting, and meaningful, but I love to know that my dollars are going to good families and hard working mamas, instead of some huge corporation.

All of these items are beautiful, faith based, and well made!

Relics By Rose

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If you’re looking for unique, faith inspired jewelry combining remnants, relics, or styles from bygone eras with stylish, modern designs, this is your place! Her work is beautiful. All of her work is beautiful, particularly this Miraculous Medal!

Christmas Order Cutoff is December 5.

Hairbows for Life 

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Hairbows for Life is a small business that makes hair bows such as Saint bows, Blessed Mother bows, Pro-life bows, Ballet bows, and simple yet sweet bows. They are 100% pro-life and donated a % back into the pro-life community.

Christmas Order Cutoff: December 6

Telos Art

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Telos Art creates religious jewelry, art, and liturgical calendars. The liturgical calendars include seasonal liturgical colors, daily readings, feast days, and sacred art by current and classical artists. A lunar gardening calendar will launch in December 2017.

Christmas order cut of is December 15.

AshCraft Creative

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Beautiful, hand tooled leather items.

Christmas Order Cutoff: Nov 30

Little Praying Hands

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At Little Praying Hands, we bring Catholic inspired teethers to the little people in our lives. Not only can babies and toddlers teethe on RosaryChews and RosaryRingChews they get used to having this important part of our Catholic faith close at hand.

Our new baby will be receiving on of these rosaries in his/her stocking this year and it is SO CUTE!

Christmas Order Cutoff: RosaryChews: 12/10/17. RosaryRingChews: 12/14/17

Come Holy Spirit Rosaries

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Come Holy Spirit makes Catholic rosaries, chaplets, and jewelry for my shop Come Holy Spirit Rosaries.  All pieces are handmade, most with semi-precious stones and solid bronze parts or silver-filled jewelry wire.  Many pieces are ready made, and always welcome custom orders.

Christmas Order Cutoff: December 17

Sweet Little Ones

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The mission of Sweet Little Ones Shop is to help Catholic women decorate their homes in a meaningful, faith-filled way on a budget. We offer wall art printables that aim to serve as beautiful visual reminders that will inspire a deepening of the Catholic faith in our everyday lives

Christmas Order Cutoff: For the majority of my shop, which are instant downloads, there is no deadline. For custom orders, the deadline for Christmas is December 8

Apple And Azalea

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These creative and unique Morris Code Necklaces are the perfect gift for any guy in your life! I love how masculine they are, while carrying a subtle message.

Little Faithful Friends

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Peg dolls are so popular with kids! Dolls from Little Faithful Friends bring the saints right into your kiddos hands. And the Ingalls Family! So cute!

Happy Nest Home Goods

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Happy Nest Home Goods offers hand embroidered jewelry & wall decor, Catholic diffuser jewelry, and sacrifice beads all lovingly crafted to bring a little more joy into your every day. I have a pair of Theresa’s diffuser earrings and they’re just lovely!

Christmas Order Cutoff: Embroidered items: December 1 Beaded items: December 15

Other Gift Guides:

Toyless Gift Guide

Game Edition

Books!

Books! A Christmas Gift Guide

We love to read and nothing is cozier in those quiet Christmas days than snuggling up with a book, a warm fire, and a hot drink. We love to tuck books under the tree, so the kids have new reads to entertain them over Christmas break. Most of these recommendations came from my kids, so there’s your endorsement!

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Younger Children

Penguin Cha Cha

I love reading aloud this sweet book about a little girl named Julia and her steadfast determination to dance with the penguins at the zoo! It was a library pick that became a must buy favorite.

Julia’s House for Lost Creatures

I promise I really love this book and I’m not just including it because the author is my brother. It’s a delight to read aloud and the pictures are beautiful. Our copy is so read that it is in tatters!

The Animals of Farmer Jones

This is Kateri’s favorite book and she insisted that it be included on the list!

Strega Nona

a classic favorite. Is there any better lesson than the ones we learn from Strega Nona and Big Anthony?

Bigger Kids (10+)

Miss Peregrine’s Home for Peculiar Children

if your kids like fantasy and adventure, this is a great one for them. It’s a series and my big kids have enjoys all of them.

The Hound of the Baskerville

Sherlock Holmes is all the rage right now. Why not have the kids read the original works? We have a copy of the complete works and, while huge, it’s been a popular one to pick up and read here and there.

Biggest Kids (14+)

Ender’s Game and Ender’s Shadow

This science fiction novel enthralled my kids from about sixth grade on. It’s intense, so maybe not the best for the sensitive kiddos.

A Girl of the Limberlost

This tale of a girl and her love for the swamp where she grows up is charming and sweet.

The Graveyard Book

I’ll preface this by saying that not all book by Neil Gaiman are suitable for kids, but this one is aimed to young teen / teen crowd. Spooky, intriguing, suspenseful; this one will keep the pages turning!

Graphic Novels 

Graphic Novels are perfect for a range of ages. I’ve seen them turn reluctant readers into ravenous readers and the proficient readers keep coming back to them!

Zita the Spacegirl

This is one the kids keep coming back to this trilogy about an adventurous girl and her intergalactic journeys.

Sister and Smile

My brother stop by this summer, with a merry troupe of traveling artists. Afterwards, Raina gifted us a set of her books. My kids quickly devoured these fun autobiographical tales of Raina and her family.

TinTin

Satire, adventure, and a fun quirky read. This is a series, so it can keep you going for quite a while! My boys, especially, enjoy TinTin adventures.

One Dead Spy

These books by Nathan Hale are a fun way for kids to learn a bit of history, while reading an adventurous story. One Dead Spy is actually about the original Nathan Hale and is a house favorite. We’ve read quite a few and I think the historical references are pretty accurate and stories and graphics are enjoyed by the kids.

Ugly Cry Inducing (My teens love a good book cry!)

Of Mice and Men – a classic, no doubt. Hand this over with discretion. We deemed it the saddest book ever written.

Where the Red Fern Grows – another sad one! But my kids have all loved this classic little tale.

The Bridge to Terabithia

 

This is a tear jerker I remember fondly. It’s such a sweet story of friendship and imagination!

Add your favorite books to read or gift, in the comments! Other gift guides to check out: Toyless Gift Guide (2016) and Game Edition

Christmas Gift Guide – Game Edition

We love family game night! Sometimes it’s tough to find games that fit a broad spectrum of ages and abilities. In our house, often big kids and adults will team up with the littles, so that everyone can play and have fun. (This post contains affiliate links)

I can’t take credit for a lot of these great game finds. My mom and my husband are masters at sniffing out quality games. And that’s not always an easy feat!

Chicken Cha Cha Cha

This one is mostly for the younger set, but DON’T BE FOOLED. Our nine year old will smoke you. It’s a twist on the old memory game and quite entertaining!

Happy Salmon

This simple, but rousing game is fun for everyone. Even the four year old plays along! It’s loud and wild, but hilarious!

Bird Bingo

Here’s another one the kids love. It’s not my personal favorite, but once they can read, they can play independently. With a little help, the younger set (4ish) can play along, too. You’re budding ornithologist will love it. It also comes in other animals like Dog Bingo and Bug Bingo.  And bonus – you can totally count this as educational!

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Here’s one to challenge the math skills. As in, my own math skills! This is a simple dice game, but lots of fun. We picked it up on a camping trip and it proved to be a great little travel game.

Stratego

Here’s a classic strategy game that still holds the attention of kids (8+) and grown ups alike. My husband loves to challenge the kids and we’ve had adult friends challenge the kids to a game, as well. It’s a two player game, but the others love to stand around and cheer on the players.

Five Crowns

 

Here’s a game that my mom found, but we loved it so much we got our own set! It’s a rummy style card game that builds and changes as the game moves on. It’s a great game for age 7 to adult to play together.

Multi-Pack of Playing Cards

 

Lastly, we love to play regular old cards. Our big kids have finally mastered our favorite game of Euchre. But we always seem a few cards short of a full deck (literally and not so literally). This would solve our problems, at least for a bit!

What are your favorite family board games? I always love to hear new suggestions and ideas. Leave your faves in the comments!

For more gift ideas, hop over to last years Toyless Gift Guide. Also, be sure to follow the blog for a few more gift guides that I’ll post in the next week or so.